How to Kiss and Cuddle With Your Boyfriend

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Last Updated: April 14, 2024 Fact Checked

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Kissing your boyfriend can get a bit tricky, and you can feel even more lost when he throws cuddling into the mix. If you're sitting on the couch next to your boyfriend and he puts his arm around you, what do you do next? Read on to find out.

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Cuddling with Your Boyfriend

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Slide up to him. If you're both on the couch, don't sit miles apart from your man unless you want him to feel lonely. If the Mississippi river could run right between you two without incident, then you have a problem. So, if you're sitting on the couch, move over so your bodies are almost touching. If his arm is around the back of the couch, then that's a big sign that he wants you to move into the crook of his arm.
- If you're watching TV, then this makes it a bit easier. Your sneaky moves closer to your man won't be so obvious.
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Let him put his arm around you. Once you're in the crook of his arm, make him see that you like feeling his touch and move closer to him, so your head is on his chest or even resting right below his neck. You can even look up at him and smile to let him know how much you like cuddling with him. Then he'll know that he can put his arm around you.
- You can also reach down and hold his hand. Gently stroking his palm or fingers can send him the right message.
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Do the reclining cuddle. If you're bored with just sitting and cuddling with your boyfriend while you're both facing forward, you can try the reclining cuddle. You can put your arms around your boyfriend's shoulders, moving away from his body until he gets the message and knows he should lie down.^{[1]
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Research source} Then, you can move into the crook of his arm, still facing away from him while his arms around you.
- Alternately, you can just lie on his stomach, facing him -- though this will lead to kissing ASAP. When you're that close to each other, a stolen kiss will be hard to resist.
- Your bodies shouldn't be stacked on each other completely. Even if you're lying on top of your boyfriend, move your legs off to the side.
In this classic cuddling move, you and your boyfriend should both be sitting up with your arms around each other, but your legs should be folded and turned toward your boyfriend, fitting right on his lap while his legs are positioned below you, on the ground.
This is another classic cuddling spoon. To do this one, you should be curled up behind your man with your arms around him. You should both be lying down, on your sides, to pull this one off.
This is the ultimate spooning position. Just lie on your side, facing away from your boyfriend, so that his chest is up against your back.^{[2]
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Research source} Your bodies should both be in the "C" position, facing the same direction, as your boyfriend puts his arms around you. He can even rest his chin on your shoulders, bringing your faces closer together.
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Avoid a few terrible cuddling moves. You may think that cuddling will bring you closer to your boyfriend no matter what. While this is true most of the time, there are a few cuddling poses that can be so uncomfortable that they bring your cute intimacy session to a halt. Don't worry -- these common mistakes are made by cuddling amateurs and professionals alike. But if you know what to avoid, you'll be one step ahead of the game. Here they are:
- The dead arm. The dead arm is the #1 most objectionable cuddling move. This occurs when you're snuggling either when you're sitting up or lying down, with your boyfriend's arm trapped behind your back. This will quickly cut off his circulation -- and his need for romance.
- The human knot. This cuddling no-no happens when you and your boyfriend are so entwined that it would take an hour just to find out where you've put your left leg or right hand. If you can't separate your body parts from your boyfriend's, then you have a problem.
- The notorious face-to-face cuddle.^{[3]
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  Research source} Unless you're ready to kiss right away, you should avoid cuddling while you're facing your boyfriend head on.
- The tight squeeze. Unless you want your boyfriend to literally take your breath away, you should avoid having him hold you so tightly that you're struggling to inhale. If this happens, just gently tell him to let go a little bit.

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Kissing Your Boyfriend

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Lock eyes. Making eye contact is the first step to a successful kiss. Once you're been cuddling for a while, or even if you haven't and just feel like kissing, the first step is to make eye contact. Locking eyes will let your boyfriend see that you want to kiss and that you're thinking about his lips. Once you're facing each other and your arms are around each other, it's time to go in for a kiss.
- You can even lick your lips a bit to soften them without being too obvious about it. That will bring even more attention to your mouth.
Now, move closer to your boyfriend and put your hand on his cheek or face. Pull him toward you and continue to lock eyes as you get ready for the kiss.
Give him a passionate kiss on the lips. You shouldn't try to French kiss him right away. First, give him a soft, passionate kiss on the lips. Just lean in to kiss his lips, hold your lips there for a second, and then pull away while locking eyes.
French kiss him. Once you're comfortable with soft, gentle kisses, you can start French kissing if you're comfortable with that. Move your tongue slowly into your boyfriend's mouth as he does the same. Then, you can move your tongue around his mouth in a slow, circular motion, or gently move your tongue up and down as you rest it on top of his.
If you want to show affection for your boyfriend, you can kiss his neck, his ears, or even the side of his jaw. This will add a nice change of pace to your kissing session, and will make him want to kiss you even more.
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Keep on cuddling. Just because you're kissing doesn't mean that you should drop your hands and do nothing but kiss. In fact, it means the opposite. You should keep your hands busy while you kiss, so that you and your boyfriend feel more intimate. You can also take breaks between kisses to cuddle. Here are some ways to keep touching your boyfriend while you cuddle:
- Put your arms around his neck
- Play with his hair
- Put your hands on his chest
- Sit on his lap and put your hands on his shoulders
When you're done kissing and cuddling with your boyfriend, give him a big smile and a quick kiss to let him see how happy he makes you -- and how much you'd like to kiss him again. Stroke his hair, tell him you like him, or do something small to let him see how happy he makes you feel. Don't be too embarrassed to show him your true feelings.

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Make sure they are comfortable as well as you are.

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Make sure your breath smells nice and that you smell nice, kissing and cuddling is a very close intimate moment between the two of you so don't ruin it by smelling bad.

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To let him know that you want to cuddle, try leaning your shoulder towards him with your head on your other shoulder. If he wants to cuddle, he'll put his arm around you and pull you in.

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If he pulls away don't force him, he might not be ready. Not everyone is ready at the same time.

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If this is going to be your first kiss go somewhere private.

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Relax and be who you are. Have fun!

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